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Fear. What is it? Can you touch it? Can you hold it?
Can you show it to another person? I can almost hear
you from where I am
sitting. "No, no, no." Okay then, so you can't
touch it, you
can't hold it, and you can't show it to another person.
The
question then is, why? Why do we have fear? Fear is
nothing more
than an emotion or a feeling that we hold in our mind.
We fear
either the emotional or physical pain something may
cause. The
problem is, these emotions and feeling affect the way
we live our
lives. We fear doing certain things because we think
we might fail.
This may be due to past failures we have actually experienced
or it
may be due to failures we fear we might experience.
I urge you to remember and live by the following motto.
Fear stands for:
False
Evidence that
Appears
Real
Most of the time what we fear, we have never even experienced!
Isn't that crazy? You see, your mind has a hard time
determining
whether you've actually experienced the failure or just
imagined
it. Either way, you feel the physiological symptoms
of the fear;
such as an upset stomach. Often, because we can imagine
some sort
of failure, we believe it will come true, and then we
don't even
try! And that is what makes a failure; a person who
is afraid to
try because they fear the potential of a negative outcome.
If you
don't at least try, you can never succeed.
"I have been through some terrible things in my
life, some of which
actually happened."
- Mark Twain
The question now becomes who defines what 'failure'
and 'success'
is? You do right? Either you create the definition yourself
or
you accept someone else's definition. Is it true then
that some
people create more difficult definitions of success
and failure
for themselves than others do? You bet it is! Who do
you think
leads a more successful live, Alex who defines success
as, "everyday
that I wake up and I'm not six feet under, is a great
day." Or
Jeff, who defines success as, "I have to be earning
at least
million dollars a year before I am successful."
You guessed right again. Alex. You see, Alex has created
her own
definition of what success means and that definition
is relatively
easy to achieve! Therefore, in her mind, she is successful
everyday. Whereas Jeff, as per his own definition, cannot
be
successful until he is earning one million dollars a
year. What
are the chances that most of the 'Jeff's' in the world
feel like
failures on a daily basis because they are not yet earning
one
million dollars a year? Now don't get me wrong. I'm
not saying
that you should not set high standards and goals for
yourself.
What I am saying is that you have to be careful that
you 'happily
achieve, rather than achieve to be happy'.
The more difficult your definition of success is to
attain, the
more fear you will attach to it. Don't let your own
definitions
limit you. Or even worse, the definitions of others.
Create your
own definitions to make it harder to feel like a failure
and easier
to feel like a success. That way you will attach less
fear to what
you want in life. What would you attempt to do if you
knew you
could not fail? Image what you can do in your life with
that type
of belief system. Try thinking of every 'failure' as
a success.
That is, every time you 'fail' at something, you have
really
succeeded because you have learned what does not work.
Therefore,
you are closer to succeeding the next time you try.
Remember that
the past does not equal the future. Yesterday's failure
does not
equal your future outcomes. Just because you may have
failed
yesterday, or even five minutes ago, it doesn't mean
you are going
to fail again. Just learn from what you did wrong and
change your
approach. Don't fear the past. The past is what has
taught you
how to succeed in the future. Be fearless!
- Glen Hopkins
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